‘Looking for the good in others’ is probably something you were taught to do in your early education. Elementary school teachers are pros at helping children to learn to keep an open mind about others and experiences. Now, as an adult, you like the idea of it, but may have trouble applying this principle in your everyday life.
Turns out, looking for the good in people and experiences is an excellent way to turn your thoughts from the negative, into more harmonious thoughts. Remember, apply this idea to both people AND experiences.
“People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude.” -John C. Maxwell
Consider that even people that you may think of as terrible or insignificant have some good qualities and have done some good deeds. We can never know a person’s entire story. I recall working with a model in corporate-america who I really could not seem to connect with. To say she was snotty, cold, and closed-off would be an understatement. Water-cooler talk among my colleagues included awful comments like, “Sure am glad we were blessed to breathe Angela’s** air today.” In that moment, I made a firm decision that I was GOING TO LIKE THIS GIRL.
I made it my personal mission to be open when she was closed, to be kind when she was snarky, and to go out of my way to work on projects with her. That cold and snarky girl had been out of an abusive relationship for only two years. A year prior to leaving, she had given birth to a stillborn baby that had passed as the result of domestic violence.
When you decide you really do not care for a person, let that be your trigger to FIND A WAY. You won’t regret it. To this day, I never looked back and thought, “You know, getting to know such-and-such and finding out they were human really sucked. Never gonna do that again.”
“I do believe in the old saying, ‘What does not kill you makes you stronger.’ Our experiences, good and bad, make us who we are. By overcoming difficulties, we gain strength and maturity.” -Angelina Jolie
When you are able to change your thinking so that you always ‘look for the good’, you will discover that your life will shine brighter and brighter.
Not only for you – but also for others around you…family, associates, co-workers, employees and friends. The plain fact is, people gravitate towards and want to spend time with others that look for the good in people and experiences.
Perhaps you have someone in your life right now that exudes the positive thinking lifestyle. Likely, others comment on how positive they are; that no matter what, they always see the bright side. They may comment on their positive outlook and that they are pleasant to be around and that nary a negative word comes out of their mouth.
Isn’t it time that the people in your life started making statements like that when describing you?
The search for the good, if diligent and faithful need never be in vain! When you find the good, remember to treasure that you got there. When your habit of looking for the good in others is fully established, negative thoughts will seldom intrude! If you pause and ponder about the good in that person or experience, I promise that you will stop that negative thought dead in its tracks.